Why sex is for marriage ONLY & 8 benefits of waiting.

A Single Young Christian Mom


This topic sparks such a passion in me.  I know all too well the consequences of sex before marriage.  Now that I am in a relationship that has NOTHING to do with sex (yes, we have been dating almost 2 years, engaged for the last year, and have NOT had sex), I see the blessings and benefits in waiting for marriage.  Now it is clear to me that God made sex to be for marriage only, and I want to share what He’s taught me so far.

Before I had found and committed myself to following Jesus, I didn’t really see sex before marriage as a problem.  If we are have all these sexual urges and desires, it must not be a bad thing… right?  It was completely normal in my high school, actually.  I remember the pressure I felt to have sex with each boy I dated.  I…

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Dust Off Your Shoulders

You feel that way because of the kind of values you hold, you have not lost your crown. You just haven’t upheld your standards and your being recognises it.

 – Osamagbe Ohenhen


Not really.

I can’t explain it really…

But I’ll try,

It’s like you’re numb but you’re not,

It’s like you’re claustrophobic and stuck in a tight corner,

It’s like you’re on fire but you’re not burning.

That’s how one more mistake feels like.

Well, I learned never to call them mistakes rather lessons.

Sometimes you want to beat the odds and believe things are gonna work out

You know they aren’t but you convince yourself it’s gonna turn out fine.

And then it doesn’t.

This time you can’t run away from the “I told you so”’s

Because this time your mind echoes those four words to you.

And you can’t run away from your mind, you can’t run away from you.

So where do you run?

Who do you run to?

The One

No! not the romantic idea of “the one” lol

I mean Jesus,

His light is brighter than our darkness,

He is bigger than our mistakes,

Most would judge you,

You would judge you,

But He won’t, on the contrary,

He’s saying,

“I make all things (even your mistakes) work together for your good because you love me”

“When you are done with this test, this temporary limitation, I’ll give you a marvellous testimony”

“Eyes have not seen, ears have not heard what I have planned out for you”

“I know the plans I have for you… plans to give you a hope and a future”

“I will make all things beautiful in it’s own time”

“Don’t worry.”

“Cast your burdens on me, I care”

“When I turned around the captivity of Zion, they were like men that dream”

“Embrace me, I will be your song”

“I stoop down to make you great because I love you”

“I am with you, ALWAYS.”

“Do not be afraid of the future I am already there”

“Nothing can separate you from my love, not death not life, not angels not principalities, not things to come, not powers, not height not depth not anything else in all creation. Nothing”

“I will never leave you nor forsake you, do not be afraid, do not be discouraged”

Even when we leave Him, He doesn’t leave us.

Would we ever understand the mystery of Grace?

The mystery behind this everlasting LOVE?

Maybe not now, but in a little while He’ll tell us everything.

He said He’s coming soon 🙂


The Wisdom of Fear Not.

How didn’t I know that being a child of God is equal to being fearless?

Never really thought of it that way, I may have embraced fear as a motivating factor, there was a time I would read just because of the fear of not writing anything in the exam hall and then I would get an A. Without knowing it, I welcomed fear. Realized today fear has no place here. Not even a tiny space.

I decided I was going to write on fear, earlier today I listened to a message that had the bullet point: Fear Not. It caught my attention.

But before I go into that, something about opportunities also caught my attention, Here’s what Pastor Victor said:

Most often opportunities presents itself as a problem in disguise, therefore embrace it.
When God wants to make you a showcase He presents a case before you. The giants of the scriptures were men and women that understood opportunity. They recognized and embraced it.
David, Daniel, Joseph, Esther… (Ask how)
Every opposition ahead of you is to affirm your upward position.
“Opportunity lost is blessing transferred.”
Don’t lose your opportunity.

Wisdom of Living: Wisdom of Fear Not

“Fear Not”

Whatever you are afraid of would happen.
If you are afraid of tomorrow, your fear would happen.
It’s not an emotional or psychological state, Fear is a spirit.
How do we know this?
2 Timothy 1:7, God has not given us the spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind.
Fear is a spirit of bondage.
Don’t be afraid of what is coming ahead of you.
What is coming ahead of you is not bigger than you.
Fear not.
First people who became afraid? Adam and Eve.
♦ Fear erodes mentality.
You do things you wouldn’t do normally.
♦ It afflicts your confidence.
♦ It abuses personality.
♦ It loses identity. You can’t talk/stand where others are talking, easily intimidated…
♦ It reduces authority.
Job 3:25- “The thing I was afraid of answered.”
The thing you are afraid of the most would happen.
Fear is as powerful as faith.
Leave it to God and let life play it out.
Never be afraid.
Fear not was said 365 TIMES – One for each day. 
Balance your life.
Never be afraid of anything cause it is most dangerous and most destructive.
Fear not.
Enjoy God.
Don’t bother on tomorrow.
Celebrate your today.
Face your assignments with all your strength today, make a new name today.
Do it in an extra way-better today. Be a better person
Give it your best.
Maximize opportunities of today. And see how God would decorate your life.

The answer to the spirit of fear is the spirit of Faith. How is the spirit of faith manifested? I believe, therefore I speak. Speak life to your tomorrow. ♥ 

And She Laughs With No Fear of the Future….




The Unbeatable Offer

Hey Guys, So I stumbled on this post by Unshakable Demi on Facebook and I was so inspired. All week I’ve been fretting a little about “What next?” especially since the next I made plans for seems unsure. Sometimes I have this pressure that comes with joining the real world “rat race” but in these few days I learnt new things.

I met a guy who has his plans going well quite a substantial amount of acquired wealth I would guess but he doesn’t believe in religion. I then asked myself would I rather be here pondering on what next but knowing that God reigns in my affairs or  where he is. I decided I would rather be like here, there’s something about knowing the Almighty. “He gives you a peace that surpasses all understanding” but when the devil thinks “hey! let me put people in her path that are achieving the things she had planned” and it seems that your peace is wavering. Just go back to the altar. Jesus has the victory. He said “…I have overcome the world”.

It came to me to thank and not to ask. And it was confirmed by a message. “Rather than asking for His gifts and His miracles. Seek Him. If you have God you have his miracles. If you have God you have more.”

Jeremiah 29:13 “Then you will seek Me, inquire for and require Me [as a vital necessity] and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.”

Paul said in Philippians 3:10 “… that I may know Him.. and the power of His resurrection..” when you know Him you have His power. The power to succeed. You have victory over anything that is not of Him. He said,”No good thing shall I withhold from those who walk uprightly.” “All thing works together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose.”

Psalm 37:25 I have been young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread.

All will be well 🙂

Here is the Unbeatable Offer written by Unshakable Demi :

Wanna be the best in your field?

Wanna ace all your courses and be the best in class?

Wanna live an anxiety-free life?

Wanna have foresight?

Wanna have all your hopes and aspirations fall in place at the right time?

Wanna be guided by someone who is experienced in your field?

Wanna avoid the pitfalls that may people face?

Wanna have unlimited joy and live a fulfilled life?

All these and many more…..

On one condition:

Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all these things shall be added(Matt 6:33)

Many of us have come across this scripture before, have probably recited it innumerable times but the truth is we don’t practice it….(I inclusive)

We are all so caught up in the vicissitudes of life that we fail to acknowledge the giver of life…we keep running helter skelter to make ends meet, to achieve that goal…but we forget that if we add the God factor, not only would we achieve those dreams, it’ll also be with less stress and other benefits added

The usual excuse is..”Oh I’m so busy”(work, uni etc)….but imagine if God says “oh I’m too busy with the other 6 billion people in the world…and I don’t have time to ensure that you’re alive tomorrow?”

The recent events happening around the world today has re-inforced how transient life is….

Decide to change today, for there may never be a tomorrow…..

About A Queen

It’s been a while since I wrote anything.

Sitting here I’m overwhelmed with a feeling. I’ll call it love. I’ll call it admiration. I’ll call it gratitude.

Not for just anybody but for the woman God gave me to watch over me, protect and to love me. My Role model, my own personal virtuous woman, a woman I’m privileged to call my mother.

She carried me for nine months, fed me, bathe me, although I may not remember my first years I know my mum was always there for me.

From the stories I know she went through a lot to ensure I had the best of everything even when everything seemed to be working against her. My beautiful dress with red that I wear in the pictures, my mum bought it paying twice just so I would look beautiful, mum made clothes from her scarves, took care of my hair so well that I always got compliments.

I remember Corona days; my mum in her red Toyota Starlet would drive us to school (playing that medley tape that has “God never fails”, “It’s about the time to go home…but the faithful one has given us assurance that everything’s gonna be good” and other songs.) every other morning early and looking presentable. Mum would buy snacks from the woman who owned the kiosk across the school whose nickname was “YES-YES” not because she had to but so we would be happy.  Best times were during exams, mum would park her car behind the school and ask us questions so we wouldn’t fail, she gave her time to my brother and I, gave us her best. Mum knew the teachers and my friends. I remember how she would take me to birthday parties I was invited to and my friend’s house to play, sometimes she would wait, other times she would come back to get me.

She trained us and brought us up in the way of the lord. She beat bad habits and stubbornness away. There were times when I felt I was adopted and imagined I was switched at birth; little did I know that it was for my own good. She prayed for us and prayed with us.  I remember when mum would travel, she wouldn’t tell us when she was coming back, we would come back from school and find everything we wished for on our beds laid out ever so nicely, I would scream in joy and start looking for my angel who would be in the balcony lying down for fresh air.

My mum’s presence in a place made and still makes me feel comforted; I knew no one could mess with me once she was around because no one can mess with my mum- my own personal superhero! When she would drop me off with an adult to stay for a bit or to make my hair I would be quiet and feel timid but when my come comes around everywhere becomes lively, making jokes or saying something sarcastic. Yup. My mum is the coolest.

I remember…

“I remember my 10th birthday when we went shopping for my party pack in yaba and I had a lovely party in ikoyi club. I remember you took us there every Friday after school and paid for swimming lessons. I remember how you would lie down and let me play with your hair. I remember year 2000 in London. I remember advising you when you were unhappy, crying as you cried. I remember all the new clothes. I remember shopping for school bag and school shoes. I remember waiting you waiting as I wrote entrance exams. I remember…”

A proverbs 31 woman, she’s the most hardworking person I know. If I didn’t know before I know that now, I’m old enough to take care of the house when she travels and from that I know it is not easy! Far from it! For 23 years, on Sundays she wakes up as early as 4am to make the perfect English breakfast, my friends who have slept over would confirm the perfection ^_^. Every other day she wakes up early to get my sister ready for school, these past few days I haven’t slept well doing all that…

My mum’s personality is one of a kind. She is caring in her actions, not always with words. Mum points out what you are doing wrong and she wouldn’t hesitate to tell you what’s on her mind. She doesn’t keep things inside and resent you secretly. She tells you straight up and if you’re wise enough you will obey. Although, she says it’s rude to say an adult is shouting or yelling, mum can yell you into the ground. She has a good heart and loves to give. My mum is a God lover, God is her whole world and He’s been faithful. Doing things of God makes my mum happy, that and watching Mount Zion movies, let’s not forget talking on the phone (I’m so sure she’s Airtel’s best customer and she has been with them since they were called Econet, she bought her sim card for about 37k I think). Have I mentioned she’s beautiful inside and out, loves fashion- started with selling laces, now she has a boutique where she sells the most elegant of clothes. She dresses chief judges, pastors, bankers and other great women. Her style is simple yet elegant and for a 51 year old woman my mum is smoking hot!!!

Mum and I argue often because she thinks I’m lazy and I like to do things at my own time. I think the only true part is the latter, everyone is lazy sometimes- can’t always be pro-active. But I think I’m so much like my mum who also likes things done at her time. But my own time and hers are totally different.  Well, she’s the mother.

I’ll stop here, I could write a book if I’m to speak on my mum which I may do someday to inspire young people especially girls.

She didn’t have much then but she gave me her all.

She once said “I don’t have much but I have Jesus. And it’s this Jesus I have to give to you.”

My mum’s story is a beautiful one. It gives me hope and makes me know that all things really do work out for the good of those who love God.

Proverbs 31:28 says her children arise and call her blessed. This is a way of arising and declaring that my mum is the best in the whole world and indeed blessed. Many mothers have done virtuously, nobly and well but you excel them all.

Just a piece to let you know I love you. I may not be able to mention all you have done for us but I want to let you I remember every bit and I’m grateful for it.

My prayer is that we wouldn’t let you down and your efforts would not be in vain.

You gave us your all. And the fruit of your labour would show forth.

I will make you proud. I promise.

You said to send a mail of things I need but I realized you’ve provided so much that I couldn’t even think of one thing I seriously need. I have all I want. Indeed I’m not just lucky but blessed and I thank God for you.

“I thank my God in all my remembrance of you. In every prayer of mine I always make my entreaty and petition for you all with joy” – Philippians 1:3-4

Not to say we won’t have our differences most times. But to acknowledge you and let you know, you are loved, great woman. I’m very sure you touch lives even as you’ve touch my own.

I Love You

Olamide Wilson.

Hey There…

So it’s been a while since I’ve written anything, well I’ve tried writing but I always end up saving it on my notepad & in the write-up folder. It either comes off to deep and confusing, cause that’s what I’ve been about for a while now.

Out of uni.now, graduated on the 27th of June. I went to NYSC camp for 3 weeks ( the experience was bad and good- everyday had its highs and lows). Serving my country for a year, that’s what my year is going to be about, well that and getting into grad. school. And… getting all the plans I wrote down for this year on the big orange paper behind my door done (Sneak Peek ? “Read 50 books” Lol I’m really going to try. This year is for me☺️. Starting work at a high school soon (Yh that’s how I’m to serve my nation, giving back to the youth). I’ll do that for bit till I get a word from God on what/where next. I was thinking of working at a company that’ll prepare me for grad. school. Trying to figure out everything on my own didn’t work out so well.

I can’t run ahead of God. Tried, Failed. He knows best.

Okay. I went to to beach today, I had fun ^_^. It had been a while since I visited a beach about 2 years ago. Today was Ibukun’s birthday get-together, I was so glad it was at the beach. I was telling Bubba the other day how I hadn’t been to one in forever and I really wanted to. I made him come. Bubba’s real name is H-man. Lol no really, it’s Harold. He’s my best buddy & y’know he’s Bubba     . We always have fun together- we’re both really silly, well he’s serious but I bring out the silly in him. Funniest thing happened on the way back, we tried to beat traffic but ended up not really beating traffic and my mum got upset because she didn’t see the reason why I took “a ship to get to London rather than a plane” ( I don’t really mean London, ship or plane.. but you get the logic don’t you ?) You see we are the good guys but we always seem to be the bad guys in the parent’s eyes. And stuff like this happens every-time ! .  Oh well if you’re going to get in trouble (not trouble trouble.. I mean i’m 21, I forgot to tell you this bit)  make sure the time was worth it. It always is.

So like I said, I omitted from the “what I’ve been up to” part of my piece that I was 21 on 1st August. I had  little get-together at my house. You’ve got to be grateful for family and friends, they’re important. My mum made Jollof rice and chicken, she got drinks too,I went out to get pizza and the cake. The presents ! My favorite part  , Bubba got me a Nikon camera, Doyin (sistuur-in-love) got me a new little black dress (I was happy- I cut my last one in a failed attempt to be creative, every girl should have a little black dress), Magbe got me a journal, Favour got me a diva book, Biola Baby got me cupcakes, Oyinda gave me a beautiful pearl necklace, Aunty gave me money $_$, Mum got me two dresses too beautiful to wear to just anywhere, Segunfunmi gave me love, gist and support, a family friend got me a bar soap and Dad got me a Laptop. The calls, voicenotes, texts, pings- I felt like a princess. Feel free to add anything else, my 21 doesn’t run out till 2015. Especially Ope.

Tired. Bye-Bye.